hi, I'm Paige.
I spent years in
the same loop.
Take a break. Feel amazing. Decide the break was proof I didn't need one. Start over. For years, that was my whole pattern - and from the outside, everything looked fine.
the version of me who
needed this.
Fine on paper. Not fine in my head.
I built a career in management consulting and organizational change, earning close to $200K a year. I had the MBA, the title, and a calendar full of things I was good at. Nobody ever raised a concern about my drinking, because why would they.
But most weekends I was the one blacking out. Waking up running through what I said the night before. Losing whole days to feeling terrible. Then doing it again.
I told myself it was normal. Work hard, play hard. Everyone does this.
There was no rock bottom.
Nothing dramatic happened. No job lost, no ultimatum, no moment I could point to. That was actually the problem - there was never an external crisis big enough to force the issue, so I stayed stuck for years.
What I did have was the running negotiation in my head. Every evening. Whether I'd drink tonight, how much, whether it counted, when I'd start again.
So I tried 30 days off. Just to see what happened.
Then I did three months, and it stuck.
Thirty days had never held before. In 2022 I took three months, and that was the stretch that changed things. Long enough for my sleep to reset. Long enough to go to weddings, work events, and dinners without a drink and find out I was still myself at them.
The difference wasn't willpower. It was that I finally went after the beliefs underneath - what I thought alcohol was doing for me, what I thought I'd lose without it, who I thought I was with it in my hand.
That's the work I do with clients now, and it's why I left the consulting career to do it.
If any of that sounded like your own head, that's usually a good reason to talk.
Book a free 30-min callNo pitch. If it's not a fit, I'll say so.
how I got here
Education
Double undergraduate degrees in Psychology and Business
Where I got interested in why people do things they've already decided not to do.
Corporate years
Management consulting and organizational change, plus an MBA
Thriving on paper. Drinking to decompress, to celebrate, and to get through the pressure.
2022
Three months off, and the stretch that finally held
Long enough to stop counting days and start finding out what life was like on the other side of it.
The pivot
Left the consulting career to coach this full time
Got IAC certified and built a method out of psychology, neuroscience, somatic work, and everything that actually helped me.
Today
100+ women coached through BecomingHer™ and my challenges
Three months, one to one, for women who function fine in every part of their life except this one.
why this isn't AA with a coach
AA works, and for some people it's exactly right. But nearly every woman who books a call brings it up before I do, and says some version of the same thing: that room isn't describing my life. Here's what I do instead.
The loop, not the habit
The hard part was never stopping. It's that going 60 days becomes your evidence that you don't need to. We go after that belief directly.
Completely private
No group, no room, nobody you might run into. You work on this from your kitchen and tell people whenever you're ready, or never.
Your social life stays
The wedding, the girls' trip, the work thing. We prep the actual events on your calendar before you're standing in them.
Structure, not just vibes
Ten years in change management means I build you a real framework. Weekly sessions, tools between them, and somatic work when talking isn't enough.
No shame, ever
I've done the corporate happy hours and the bachelorette trips and the 6pm negotiation. You will never have to explain that to me twice.
Not forever, unless you want it
Some clients finish and never drink again. Others land on moderation that actually holds. You decide at the end, not on day one.
a few things you should know about me
Based in San Diego, and I live the way I coach. Beach walks, matcha, Pilates, no hangovers.
I travel a lot and I do it alcohol free. Your social life doesn't end when this changes. It just gets more deliberate.
I've been featured in San Diego Voyager and on WTHR News talking about the sober curious movement.
Clients describe me as a mix between a sponsor, bestie, therapist and coach, with a bit of big sister thrown in.
I have two rescue dogs, Riggs & Summer. I consider them my actual children.
You'll find me on IG & TikTok at @sober_caliente. I answer every DM myself, which is how most of my clients found me.
in the press
"Hidden Gems: Meet Paige Calentino of Sober Caliente - a coach helping women redefine their relationship with alcohol and reclaim their power."
Read the feature →Featured in coverage of the sober curious movement: "Women's heavy drinking surges post-pandemic, but Gen Z is leading a sober revolution."
Watch the segment →if that sounded familiar,
let's just talk.
Thirty minutes on Google Meet, free. Here's exactly what happens:
- ✦You tell me where you're at and what you've already tried
- ✦We look at what's actually keeping the loop going
- ✦I tell you honestly whether I can help - or who can
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